It seems that many of us are going through many transitions these days. We have lost homes, lives and even a way of life that we are used to. Our futures look murky and scary. When we see that there might be rain in the forecast, we panic. When we wonder where we are going to live, we panic. When we wonder how we are going to rebuild, we panic. But, even in the midst of these transitions, we still need to be able to reflect on why we have been given the task of rebuilding this city we live in and the lives we had and, most importantly, determine if moving forward do we want our lives to be as they were or if we want them to be better.
Learning Through Transitions
Today, J-Vibe Online Publications had an interesting conversation with a gentleman who is from our Houston Jewish Community. He has seen and done so much in his lifetime, that we were awed and inspired by him. He was passionate and he was kind and although he didn’t suffer in the flood, when we were speaking, we spoke of major transitions in his life that paralleled what many of us are going through. What he has learned through his own life transitions are such amazing life lessons, that we thought they would inspire everyone.
1. When you are going through a major transition, you learn of a level of strength that you didn’t know that you had. All of you who have lost something in the flood, you have such strength. It takes strength and courage to wake up each morning and face the day, dealing with mucking out your homes, calling FEMA, dealing with insurance claims, putting your lives back together. Strength is not something that comes when it is not needed, but appears when there is a crisis, and you all have so much strength it is astounding.
2. When you are going through a major transition, you learn of your true friends. This gentleman learned who his true friends were by who remained by his side in support. For those that have been affected by the flood, you have all gained so many NEW true friends. These people were strangers and now they are true friends. They have given support, love, strength, hugs, manual labor, food, clothing and furniture. They have just stopped to ask if you are okay. You now have more friends in this lifetime than you can count.
3. When you are going through a major transition, you learn what your true priorities are in life. Yes, houses and personal belongings were lost. Pictures and personal momentos are no longer. Cars were flooded out and material possessions are now gone. But, look at what you have left. You have your family, you have each other and most importantly you have LIFE. You are alive. You are healthy. You are able to help others that truly can not help themselves. You are lucky.
4. When you are going through a major transition, you learn that life is about helping people and making a difference. During this flood, it has been a disaster in every sense of the word, but at the same time, it has been a blessing. It has brought this city to its knees, but it has also brought us all together, where everybody is helping each other without thinking about what they can get out of it, but doing it blindly and without thought, because that is how you make a difference in this world. And, the people that were devastated by this flood, are turning around and helping others as well. It has turned into one beautiful circle of people helping people and coming together.
Reflection on the Disaster
This gentleman and I reflected at length on the past two weeks. We spoke about the need for an infrastructure that should be put in place as a long term solution and that resources needed to be available and ready if this every happens again. We reflected on why a disaster had to happen in order for this city to come together in the first place. This is a great city. In fact, I would dare say the GREATEST city, and a natural disaster should not be the thing that brings this city together. We need to stand together as a united front always. We reflected on the good works the agencies were doing here and where there might be room for improvement.
But, he summed up his reflections best by his one wish,
I wish our world was more sensitive and compassionate everyday and not only in times of need.